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Now that I’ve learned that lesbianism is a choice and sexualities are just meaningless social constructs I’ve decided to become politically heterosexual. I don’t know why I haven’t thought of this sooner. All of that oppression I chose has magically…
I am not a political lesbian and do not insist on anything. I am trying to clear things up for myself; you are absolutely free not to engage in the conversation if you do not feel like it.
The reason why I asked was that I had no idea how to distinguish between a true (probably bad choice of word) lesbian and a political one, if they both are exclusively attracted to women at the moment. You said they use the word that do not belong to them; who does that word belong then to?
Regarding political heterosexuality. Yes, I totally understand that gay people mostly choose to stay in closet out of fear; however, political lesbians may also have a fear among their reasons: fear of being abused, neglected, dominated, gaslighted in a relationship with a man. I personally prefer staying unattached as a solution, at least for a while; but I understand that it may be difficult for some women.
Regarding social construct vs choice. If I may ask, why do you equate social construct and choice?
A lesbian is exclusively attracted to women. A political lesbian has chosen not to act on their attraction to men. The fact that they are attracted to men, even if they aren’t and don’t intend to act on it, makes them bisexual. When bisexual women call themselves lesbians it erases lesbian as a legit sexuality and reinforces the idea that lesbians do want men deep down. I get why some bisexual woman would want to be seen as a lesbian. I don’t get why we have to let them.
How do you distinguish between the two? Good question. It’s been my experience that the privilege and entitlement it takes to use an oppressed group as a safe haven will show itself eventually. Or when they announce they have a boyfriend now. That’s pretty telling.
I don’t equate social construct and choice. My original post was in response to someone telling me that it’s our patriarchal society that makes women attracted to men and with the right education any woman can choose lesbianism. That’s the biggest load of shit anyone has ever tried to sell me on this site so far. When radfems and identity politics combine it’s both sad and terrifying.
Now that I’ve learned that lesbianism is a choice and sexualities are just meaningless social constructs I’ve decided to become politically heterosexual. I don’t know why I haven’t thought of this sooner. All of that oppression I chose has magically disappeared and the…
Social construct and choice have different meanings.
Besides isn’t being in closet in some cases the equivalent of “political heterosexuality” to some extent? Like, isn’t, say, a married gay guy “political heterosexual”?
And generally speaking, what’s wrong with the idea of the political lesbianism? I mean, I don’t really see it as a solution of any kind of problem of women as a class, but on a personal level, if a woman decides for political reasons that she will only have relationships with other women, what’s wrong with it?
Did anyone else taste bile in the back of their mouth after reading this?
Being in the closet can be about internalized homophobia but mostly it’s just the crippling fear of losing the people you care about, your job, YOUR LIFE. If I accidentally made ‘politically heterosexual’ a thing I’ll never forgive myself.
And if a bisexual woman wants to be exclusively with women, for whatever reasons, they are still bisexual.
"Social construct and choice have different meanings." Wow so you do understand that words do mean things but still insist lesbian can mean whatever you want huh? Is it really that hard for ‘political lesbians’ to call themselves something else? Using words that do not belong to you is not how you show your love and support for a community.